Make ADHD the enemy; not your child.
Steps that may help handle kid with ADHD better.
Create a timetable that simplify and organize kids day: For daily activities like waking up, eating, playing, doing homework, watching TV or playing video games and going to bed. Place this timetable in kids room somewhere prominently visible, try to make this timetable look exciting by using symbols or drawings to show activities. Try to stick to the timetable however if need explain the changes to the child well in advance. You may create different timetables for summer breaks, winter and spring and explain kids well in advance; this will reduce unexpected changes in kids routine and will reduce stress that may arise due to constant change in schedule. Sticking to the schedule will ease the life and reduce stress for both parents and kids.
Break large tasks down into smaller, more manageable pieces: Breaking a complex activity in smaller manageable task helps in reducing stress and procrastination. Large complex task may look daunting to kid ADHD and they may hesitate to take up the work. Break the activity in smaller parts categorically give consistent instructions for every part / step. Use positive reinforcement technique to motivate kids. Following are a few examples from the daily life that shows how you may break the complex activity to smaller activities.
Loading the dishwasher: First load all the plates on the bottom. (“Great job!”). Now load all glasses on the top. (“Excellent!”). Next is silverware …
Laundry: First find all the pants and put them into a stack here. (“Awesome!”) Now put shirts in a stack there. (“Super-duper!”). Socks … then have the child fold each stack, and then put the stacks in his or her room, one stack at a time.
Reduce distractions: Excessive screen time could cause distraction in kids with ADHD, Instead ensure that the time should be de utilized in engaging activities and play. Michael Phelps was diagnosed with ADHD when he was in 6th grade, today his name need no recognition.
Michael Phelps holds the record for winning the most Olympic events in history—by far! The famed swimmer has 28 medals to his name, including 23 gold medals. But one of the sources of his drive to win comes from an unlikely source: his ADHD.
Under behavior management there are techniques known as positive reinforcement and negative reinforcement
Positive reinforcement: Encouraging children for their good behavior by virtue of rewarding them.
Negative reinforcement: Removing reward for their bad behavior, this will help them understand the difference between good and bad behavior and will enforce kids to continue with good behavior.
This exercise help kids understand that every action / activity has its results, and with experience they will learn all the good behavior needed to survive in the society.
Research suggests that exercise helps in decrease the risk for depression and anxiety, improve concentration, and stimulate the brain in healthy ways. It also help in burning excess energy in a healthy manner. Kids with ADHD may use athletics to focus their passion, attention, and energy. Terry Bradshaw, Pete Rose, Bruce Jenner, Justin Gatlin, Michael Jordan, Andres Torres, Greg Louganis, Chris Kaman, Cammi Granato are some great examples.
Regulate sleep patterns
Ensuring that child gets proper good night sleep is very important, Lack of sleep can lead to hyperactivity, inattention, and recklessness. Eliminating stimulants like caffeine is a good idea.
Believe in your child
If you belive in your child he will believe in himself and that’s a positive start. Self Confidence is a cornerstone of healthy social and emotional adjustment! A child may not realize the stress ADHD can cause hence it’s important to remain optimistic and encouraging. Praise your child’s good behavior so they know when something was done right. Child may have ADHD and it may not last forever, never lose hope have confidence in child and be forward-looking about their future.
Take breaks & Calm yourself
Parents are human to, they can’t be supportive round the clock, they could baffle, get disconcert but that’s ok, it’s human. Take a step back relax a little, go out for a walk, hit gym take a small break, breaks help tremendously. Consider hiring a babysitter. Children learn by observing so if you remain calm and composed they will learn the same. The calmer you are, the calmer your child will become.
Look into your school’s special services : In the United States, children qualify for free special education services based on one of two basic reasons: they have a qualifying disability or they have fallen far behind their peers academically. Once parents become aware that their child is not succeeding in school and they feel additional help is required (an opinion usually made in conjunction with the classroom teacher), parents may request a special education evaluation. If you live outside the United States, contact your local school board to ask about special services.
Get an individualized education plan (IEP) for your child. An IEP is a formalized document created by school staff and parents that spells out the academic, behavioral, and social goals of special-ed students. It includes how results will be determined, as well as specific interventions that will be used to achieve the goals. The IEP lists decisions made concerning self-contained classrooms, percentage of time in mainstream classrooms, accommodations, discipline, testing, and more.
“Don’ts” for dealing with an ADHD child
Don’t be negative
It sounds simplistic, but take things one day at a time and remember to keep it all in perspective. What is stressful or embarrassing today will fade away tomorrow.
Don’t let your child or the disorder take control
Remember that you are the parent and, ultimately, you establish the rules for acceptable behavior in your home. Be patient and nurturing, but don’t allow yourself to be bullied or intimidated by your child’s behaviors.